Everyone can identify themselves with this. There are probably things happened in your past that can influence your behavior. These can be small things or for some persons bigger things which makes a wrong first impression of greater concerns, such as the need to close your own business. Linger in negative experiences is painful and if we linger, it is damn hard to pull yourself in the positive mood or to approach life positively in it.
It is therefore important to left it behind you. Maybe the following tactics will help for you, for me it does!
Learn from your past, do not drown in it.
Of course you can learn from the past, it can also be very painful. If it does; take some time to reflect the experience and how it can help you in the future and ask yourself the following questions:
– What could actually happen? Answer this honestly. Yes, the answers will be confronting.
– Which emotions do I feel about it, and when? Perhaps write it off.
– How can I use this to make myself stronger?
Answered, on a roll, repair and lose yourself from negative thoughts, never run over the positive things that can and will happen!
Express your feelings
Do not hesitate to know what you feel. Sometimes it’s quite a thing, but we can go bad. Complain against a friend or against the person who has hurt you (or those who have hurt you) – express your feelings can help organize your thoughts. Share your thoughts with someone who listens and finds sympathy .
In addition, bottling up feelings can lead to anxiety, depression, headaches and higher blood pressure. You don’t want that.
Delicious, move yourself in the role of victim, easy to blame others. This tiny problem will not help you further. Often it is synonymous for pointing to complain. Actually you throw yourself voluntarily in a negative vibe.
Focus on the present
The easiest way to let go of the past, is to focus yourself on the present. This is done to keep you busy with yourself and enjoy contemporary times. Do new things, eat with friends, make new friends! This works better than lying in a fetal position in your shower.
Focus on the present, you have to be aware especially by what you think and feel, looking for new experiences, and acceptance of negative feelings and situations like it are small parts of your life. Which are namely often.
Identify the people around you
Which people around you are often negative and have a bad effect on your mood? Which people do you associate with the past where you and yourself are trying to distance of? Maybe it’s a good idea to create some distance with those people and spend time with people which brings you positivity upward.
Forgive others and yourself
Yes, sometimes it is fucking difficult to forgive someone, but it’s the only way to advance and grow emotionally. Embrace the past while you go, make new appointments with yourself, do not sleep in anger, and be kind and generous.
Did you find this a little below the knee, then forgive yourself. Instead of beating yourself constantly on your head, focus on the lessons you’ve learned. If you wear anger, you can not continue.
Create new memories
This is actually the result of what you do above: to forgive yourself or others, meet new people, do new things and and surround yourself with positive energies. Making new, positive thoughts will ensure that those negative are always pushed farther away.